Ever feel like your life is happening to you rather than you creating it for yourself?
A few years back I did an exercise with a life/business coach called the Lifestyle Discovery exercise. This is a discovery process in which you start to visualize the type of life you’ve always wanted. You ask yourself a bunch of questions about areas of your life such as family, finances, work, love, etc.
By the end of the questionnaire, you should have a vivid picture in your head about what you want your life to look like.
The Life Discovery Exercise
The premise of this exercise rests on the belief of the Law of Attraction (LOA). We create our reality through our subconscious. Therefore, we should be intentional with what we are thinking, saying, and doing.
I believe in the power of the LOA and I believe that we all have the power to focus our thoughts and intentions to get the things that we want – in this case, your dream life.
I’ve decided to do this exercise again. Partly because I’ve lost the answers to the questions I did the first go round but mainly because I am in a different place in my life.
Life in your 30s is very different than in your 20s. I’ve grown and changed so much and so has my idea of what I want my life to look like.
This exercise is really fun and very easy to do…so let’s get started!
How does it work?
The idea behind the lifestyle discovery activity is that our minds are what really shape our reality. Therefore, if we train our minds to focus on what we want instead of focusing on the things that we don’t want, we will be able to create our reality.
Step 1: Get In A Distraction Free Zone
This means if you have kids you may have to wait until they fall asleep or you might have to wake up extra early. Turn off the tv or radio. Do whatever works for you. The important thing is you need to be in a place that is comfortable and free of distractions.
Step 2: Create Without Limitations
Answer the questions below to create a picture of your ideal lifestyle. Start visualizing what you want your life to look like. You need to be as detailed as possible.
Assume money is not an issue and that there are no barriers to your dreams.
For example, does your ideal life have you speaking in front of thousands of people? Well who’s in there with you, what are you wearing, what perfume do you have on, what color are your shoes, what do you see when you look out into the crowd – be specific.
The important thing here is that you start to create a very vivid and highly detailed picture in your mind. The more detailed your answers are the better.
DO NOT and let me repeat this very important step DO NOT hold back or limit your imagination. This is a no judgment, anything goes free zone so have fun.
Step 3: Remove Doubt
Read through your picture, asking: “where have I not dreamed big enough? Where have I not been honest? Am I holding back?”
Redo the areas where you have not been honest or haven’t dreamed big enough.
Step 4: Remove OPO
Remove Other People’s Opinion.
Read your lifestyle design again and this time ask the following question – “What is truly important to me on this list?”
Some things you’ve written are central to who you are as a person and your values. Other things on your list might be what other people deem as valuable. We don’t really care what they want – this exercise is all about YOU!
Circle or highlight the things that are really important to you and cross out what is not important.
Here Are Some Questions To Help You Get Started
How many massages per week? What kind of body do you want? How’s your diet? How much peaceful time? How much sleep do you get? How do you dress?
Where do you want to live? What type of house? On the water? In the country? Friendly community? What lighting, artwork, flowers, smells? Your yard? How tidy is the house? Do you have a cleaner? Someone who shops for you? Who does the washing? What car do you drive?
What kind of partner are you looking for? What kind of commitment do you want? Do you want kids?
Friends and Family
How many friends do you want in your life? Are they interesting, creative, warm, open? Ideally, how would your relationship with your mother look? Father? Siblings? (Don’t let your history block you here. Create the ideal relationships!)
For this exercise, remember you have plenty of money so you don’t technically need a career.
In your perfect world, is there a job you would enjoy? Do you want to create a business? What service or product would you provide? What kind of people would you work with? What hours would you work? Work from home, or in a really cool office building?
What do you do for fun – garden, paint, photography, crafts, visit museums. When you gather with friends or family, what do you like to do? Do you travel? Where and how often? What do you do when traveling?
What do you strongly believe in? What do you love? What do you hate? How would you contribute to society? What legacy would you like to leave behind when you die?
Give this fun little exercise a try and see what you can come up with.